Finding Peace in Your Space
I have always been—through having and not having and loving and losing and comfort and gloom—someone who is deeply grounded in gratitude, and although I still rely on it for peace and contentment, lately it’s taken a little more effort than usual.
With all that’s going on in the world, it feels like there’s a collective anxiety that hangs heavy in the air and it's hard to shake off. And while it's our responsibility to go out into the world and add goodness to it, without self-care, we won't have much energy to offer our best selves to the causes that are important to us. In case my Postmodern Homemaker friends out there are feeling the same, I put together a list of a few things we can all do to create a little more peace in our living spaces.
Organize – Clutter, for the majority of folks, feels a bit chaotic. You’re running out the door, and you can’t find your keys. You’d like to do a project with your kid, but you can’t find the space. Gradually organizing your space can add serious harmony to your existence.
- Have a place for things you use frequently – a hook for your keys by the door, a place for your mail, for your reading glasses etc.
- Get rid of crap – It’s hard to find your favorite shirt when you have to sort through piles of clothing you haven’t worn in years. Make some rules about when to let go of stuff and just do it.
- Organizing as meditation – I know this sounds utterly ridiculous, but organizing can be tedious and tedious tasks are perfect for meditating. Next time you get to sorting or folding, reframe the activity and see what happens.
Make Screens Secondary – We’re inundated with news, information, suggestions, likes, requests. It’s eroding our personal space and our time with the people we love (IRL). Try shifting your relationship to screens in your space.
- No screens at the breakfast/lunch/dinner table – Use a basket in a different room where family members put their silenced devices while folks are eating. You know, so you can talk to each other... you know, with the mouths that are on your faces.
- Consider removing screens from the focal point of any room – A couple of years ago I decided to put my TV on a rolling cart and store it in the closet. It's changed the way I use my space.
- Have other activities at the ready for family and guests – games, instruments, art supplies, books. People are more likely to engage in activities that are readily available.
Claim a Corner – Find a spot in your home that conjures calm for you. Even if your day is busy, I bet you can find 5 or 10 minutes to just hit the pause button. Maybe even reflect on one good thing if that's all you can muster. This spot could be:
- A book nook
- A meditation cushion
- A spot at a window to sip your tea
Make Creative Choices - People generally reserve awe for spaces that they pay for. Our living spaces have the potential to be inspiring and it's not about being lavish.
- Add things that make you smile - Family mementos, photos, art (homemade or bought), trinkets from travels, gifts, cards.
- Don't forget your other senses - A particularly soft throw on your couch, your favorite song to have a pants-off-dance-off to, an essential oil that makes your house smell like a spa.
- Make things for your space - It costs less and is more meaningful. I love that my house is filled with things I've made.
Change it Up - Your space doesn't have to be and most certainly shouldn't be mundane. Move things around. Donate stuff that you no longer use or need. It's free and you can recreate your living space. Every house I've lived in (and I promise you it's many-many-many) has always taken a while to find the right layout and arrangement for my space, and even still, I like to change things up here and there.
What do you do to create peace in your space? Let us know in the comments below!